A FEW WORDS ON COUPLES THERAPY

TREATMENT FOCUS AREAS FOR COUPLES

PREMARITAL

Premarital counseling is such a wonderful investment in your relationship. There are so many people who look back and wish they would have known many of these things before they ran into trouble. I have a proposed list of topics that couples may wish to request or learn more about.
Topics include the 12 questions every couple should ask themselves when deciding if they are ready to move to the next level, the six skills that every successful couple needs to master, compatibility, connection, communication, conflict- management, and traps and pitfalls to avoid in relationships.

CONFLICT MANAGEMENT

Every couple will have conflict because conflict simply means difference of opinion between two people. You can and should have your own opinions. The goal of conflict is not to think like each other, but to understand each others respective points of views, and move closer to a solution.
I often help couples develop a new model of conflict management that allows them to be curious rather than judgmental, assertive rather than anxious, and help identify what their needs are rather than talking only about what they do not want.  There are six skills every successful couple needs to develop when it comes to conflict management, and I help them step by step.

SELF-ESTEEM

People with low self-esteem regard themselves critically and may feel a perpetual sense of failure or lack of accomplishment. Feelings of low self-esteem are perpetuated by constantly comparing themselves to others and criticizing themselves.
These negative messages are rarely true, but the thought patterns may be so ingrained in a person’s behavior that he or she does not recognize the frequency with which they occur. Upon examination, people often admit that the negative messages are inaccurate and that they would never say such things to another person.

CONNECTION

Statistically, more relationships end by ice, meaning increasing distance between partners, than fire, meaning arguments. The risk of couples going on auto pilot and not putting energy into the relationship is high if unaware.
It can lead to leading separate but parallel lives, not connecting enough, and can cascade into loneliness, isolation, and wondering if you can ever get back to what you had before. The good news is that if you have decided to make an appointment with me, the desire is there. Let me give you the tools to get back on track.

RELATIONSHIP CHECK-UP

The relationship check-up is a fantastic way for couples who want an evidence-based full assessment that don't mind filling out private, HIPPA protected questionnaires on-line.

The Gottman Institute offers this service privately to each individual within the pair. Each individual can look at their results, and/or bring it in to me for discussion and intervention. This is a $39 fee directly to the Gottman Institute. https://checkup.gottman.com/

COMMUNICATION

I assess the couples strengths and vulnerabilities using research-backed criteria and interventions.
Once we have identified what we need to work on, we do it together with my feedback so you know when you are on the right track.

AFFAIR, INFIDELITY RECOVERY

This is a difficult and sensitive topic for those going through it. It is natural and expected for either party to feel ambivalent, angry, hopeless, frustrated, scared, resentful, or even relieved, hopeful, and ready to put it behind them. We will meet together to discuss your relationship history, and I will ask questions about your respective view points on your relationship and your connection to each other.
I have to balance getting important data, with how honest each partner is ready to be as well as protecting the non-affair partner from any potential blame or perceived blame. To that end, I may ask permission from both of you to have the non-affair partner to step out of the room while I ask some questions to determine any potential root cause/s that we need to address individually or as a couple.

PHYSICAL INTIMACY ISSUES

I offer a judgment-free, bio-psycho-social approach for assessment, education, intervention, and relapse-prevention for couples. I will help to address male and female sexual dysfunction including pain, inhibited desire, ejaculatory problems, and non-orgasmic response.
We can use several tools and strategies including psychosexual skill exercises, attitude change, cognitive restructuring, utilization of bibliotherapy, and adopting a healthy, integrated attitude towards sexuality. We will discuss the five dimensions of touch, the Good Enough Sex (GES) model, and healthy desire, arousal, pleasure, eroticism, and satisfaction. The typical course of couples sexual intimacy treatment may last 3-12 months, and may be in conjunction with your medical doctor/s assessment.

RELATIONSHIP MAKEOVER

Some couples may wish to tackle a number of emotionally loaded material at once, which will take more than a weekly or biweekly 80 minute appointment. For these couples, I offer a phone consultation to determine what length of time might be appropriate for the intensity of issues they face.
For example, some couples will request back-to-back 80 minute appointments for affair and infidelity recovery to gain more traction on their healing. Other couples may request a longer appointment time to deal with intense arguments, or a time crunch they are under to repair a relationship issue before they go out of town, or have family visiting, etc. Please contact me to customize your needs and appointment length.

SEXUALITY

I offer a welcoming space to discuss issues of gender, sexuality, emotional and physical attraction.
My practice is LGBTQIA+ friendly.

A FEW WORDS ON MICAH’S WORKSHOPS

WORKSHOPS

SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK PRESENTER

Based on the Premier Relationship Researcher, Author, and Therapist, Dr. John Gottman and his trained Psychotherapists offer the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Workshop. Couples of any relationship status are invited to learn what does and doesn't work in relationships, learn and practice new skills with feedback, take workbooks home for future reference, and Provider follow up.
There is no need for self-disclosure in these small, couple friendly workshops, and this is a great option for couples with busy schedules. This four hour workshop is $275 per couple and includes materials to bring home. Limited to 8 couples per workshop.

PREMARITAL/ NEXT LEVEL OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

Take advantage of one of the biggest investments into your future by taking preventative measures before any difficulty starts. Learn the six skills all couples need to be successful in their relationship, the four things to absolutely avoid and more importantly what to do instead, the four sexual styles you and your partner could be developing, numerous ways to continue to connect, and how to further your communication.
This 2-3 hour workshop is offered as demanded. $200 per couple. Limited to 8 couples per workshop.

SINGLES: 13 QUESTIONS YOU SHOULD ASK ABOUT THE RIGHT ONE

This two hour workshop is designed for singles who may need a better process for screening in or screening out potential long-term romantic partners. Instead of asking yourself 'is this the right one for me?' allow Micah to take you through 13 thoughtful, intelligent questions that will help you make wise decisions for yourself in both the short-term and long-term.
Workshop is offered as demanded. $50 per person. Limited to 15 individuals.
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TREATMENT FOCUS AREAS FOR INDIVIDUALS

ANXIETY

Anxiety can cause apprehension, fear, nervousness, and worrying. This type of mental health concern can affect how you feel and behave, as well as causing or exacerbating real physical symptoms.
It is common to experience some fear or a sense of worry when being confronted with a challenging situation such as an exam, interview, speech, or recital. These types of feelings are perfectly normal. Severe anxiety, on the other hand, interferes with your ability to function normally in your daily life or causes you to have trouble sleeping. If you think you or a loved one may have an anxiety disorder, contact Micah Brady, LCSW-C for help.

DEPRESSION

Depression affects how a person feels, behaves, and even thinks. Depression can often lead to emotional and or physical problems. Micah Brady has helped numerous patients in the metro DC area cope with their feelings of depression.
Each person is different and each situation is based on that person’s individual needs. You will have an opportunity to collaborate with Micah Brady for a treatment plan that gets results.

TRAUMA

Trauma leads to the repeated involuntary triggering of the stress reaction in the body, which often causes one to feel overwhelming fear and helplessness. Instead of experiencing the trauma just once, the mind/body continues to relive the traumatic memory over and over, lasting months, years or even decades.

This continual hyper-arousal can cause severe stress on the body and deep physical and emotional pain.
A thorough bio-psycho-social-spiritual approach integrates the full range of treatment options to meet your specific needs. We will work together to design a unique healing program to address, treat and heal your specific trauma-related symptoms.

SLEEP DISORDERS

Most of us have experienced trouble sleeping at one time or another. This is normal and usually temporary, due to stress or other outside factors. But if sleep problems are a regular occurrence and interfere with your daily life, you may be suffering from a sleep disorder.
Sleep disorders cause more than just sleepiness. The lack of quality sleep can have a negative impact on your energy, emotional balance, and health. If you are experiencing sleeping problems, learn about the symptoms of common sleep disorders, strategies to relieve stress, anxiety, intrusive thoughts, and when to see a physician for a sleep study and/or medication.

GRIEF COUNSELING

Grief counseling helps mourners with normal grief reactions work through the tasks of grieving. Grief therapy is used with people who have more serious grief reactions. The goal of grief therapy is to identify and solve problems the mourner may have in separating from the person who died.
When separation difficulties occur, they may appear as physical or behavior problems, delayed or extreme mourning, conflicted or extended grief, or unexpected mourning.Human beings tend to make strong bonds of affection or attachment with others. When these bonds are broken, as in death, a strong emotional reaction occurs. After a loss occurs, a person must accomplish certain tasks to complete the process of grief.

SELF-ESTEEM

People with low self-esteem regard themselves critically and may feel a perpetual sense of failure or lack of accomplishment. Feelings of low self-esteem are perpetuated by constantly comparing themselves to others and criticizing themselves.
These negative messages are rarely true, but the thought patterns may be so ingrained in a person’s behavior that he or she does not recognize the frequency with which they occur. Upon examination, people often admit that the negative messages are inaccurate and that they would never say such things to another person.

LIFE COACHING

With life coaching, we will focus only on the areas you feel are relevant. Questions may include describing or analyzing how your life is today, how that compares with their ideal life and what prevents you from having an ideal life.
Then we will discuss what steps or actions need to be done in order to make this happen. I will use motivational interviewing as a tool to help you achieve your goals.

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